Need to have more programs on this topic- I have done some of this kind of a workshop - and there is a demand for it- my website on allexperts.com has some of these too. Chemistry between two people happens on different levels and marriage doesn't guarantee all of those always.
Hence the need to connect with each other away from some of the roadblocks of intimacy- kids, non dressing up for each other, lack of travel together, lack of not doing community work or adventurous chores together, endless exposure to others, the syndrome of comparisson, etc. suggested ways of help- a counsellor will also suggest much these and the Sharia covers lots of ground under mubah foreplay:
Seek a getaway
Purchase lingerie's for her- give hints
Have candlelight dinners- soft music in the backgroun- if you're into that
Enjoy sexual conversations and jokes in privacy
Open communication- search where are each others erogenous spots
Look for each other turn-offs and turn-ons
Ensure the sex is spontaneous sometimes
The man must smell good, dress up and foreplay the wife more than just a slam down event!
The wife must seek creative ways of massaging, kama sutra or perfume garden helps in this lots!
Sexual exploration is an open field- I mean a huge open field except maybe anal sex for some Ulama- so never stop surprising each other!
Books and other media exposure helpsor even discussion groups as removing inhibitions is a educational process that needs cooperation from society.
Lots of taboo on sex has to be cleared by the Ulama-endless stuff in peopels minds that parents and others said is haraam or bad but its not!
2:223 Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear Allah. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe.
Tilth represents the preparation of one's garden and in this case the foreplay and even the afterplay and romance that comes with sexual territory. Time and patience are crucial to making sex appealing and creative.
The Prophet hated when men would jump like beasts on their wives and he warned if you donot dress for each other and look attactive then adultery will be your lot.
Looking at each other naked, oral sex and romantic spa moments all fall within the mubah and allowed grounds of preparing the tilth- so never stop oh gardeners of love!
Do you know Aisha, may Allah be pelased with her, bathed with her husband, on whom be peace, in the same bathtub and she would recite love poetry for him and he would for her? Do you know she would run races with him and kiss him each time he leaves home?